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Rethinking the definition of success
Improving self-esteem starts with rethinking our perception of success. Who doesn’t remember feeling less worthy of love because we didn’t get the promotion we wanted or didn’t manage to lose those last few kilos?
Let’s face it, my dear readers, human worth cannot be defined by failures or victories. Let’s put our success into perspective and understand that setbacks are as inevitable as they are essential to our personal growth.
Eliminate comparison
Rule number two: banish all comparisons. Our social networks are overflowing with images of “perfect lives”, leaving our own sometimes wobbly in comparison. But beware: this perfection is often nothing more than a well-orchestrated production.
So do yourself a favor and stop comparing yourself. Ladies, our journey is unique and deserves to be celebrated.
Practice positive affirmation
It may seem obvious to you, but the way you talk about yourself has a major impact on your self-esteem. A close friend told me how she radically changed her self-perception by practicing positive affirmation. It involves repeating kind and motivating phrases every morning in front of the mirror.
Play sports
Sport is reputed to be good for the mind. Not only does it provide the body with feel-good hormones, but it’s also an excellent opportunity to push yourself and congratulate yourself.
You don’t have to be an Olympic athlete to benefit. Start with a short 15-minute walk every day, for example.
Taking care of yourself
Whether it’s a healthy diet, beauty treatments or a good night’s sleep, taking care of yourself is essential for good self-esteem. With this in mind, don’t underestimate the power of a good haircut or a new perfume you like – it’s all in the details.
Taking positive action
Positive actions, big or small, can boost your self-esteem.
Giving your time, helping a friend in need, or simply doing someone a favor, always brings a gratifying feeling.
Recognize your strengths
None of us is perfect, nor are we destined to be. Recognizing our strengths and qualities is as rewarding as brooding. Take this opportunity to make a list of all the things you appreciate about yourself, whether physical, intellectual or emotional.
Work on self-acceptance
This includes accepting every part of yourself, even the darkest or most painful.
Another friend told me how self-compassion helped her heal old wounds and build better self-esteem.
Surround yourself with positive people
The positive energy of others can do wonders for our self-esteem. Surrounding yourself with people who lift you up, inspire you and make you feel good about yourself is a great way to develop a better self-image.
Work with a therapist
Sometimes, the road to self-respect can be fraught with obstacles. Don’t hesitate to ask a professional for help. A therapist can help you align your self-perception with your true worth. Each step may seem challenging, but they will lead you to a healthier self-esteem.
So, ladies, never forget: you are worthy of love and respect, just as you are.
